Dr. Neil Clark Warren, psychologist, conservative Christian, and noted co-founder of eHarmony, recently said in an interview with Yahoo.com:
“I have said that eHarmony really ought to put up $10 million and ask other companies to put up money and do a really first class job of figuring out homosexuality”…he also noted. “At the very best, it’s been a painful way for a lot of people to have to live…”
This phrase, “figuring out homosexuality,” really reeks of the willful misunderstanding and deep-seated hatred that goes to the heart of an issue that Dr. Warren asserted has damaged his dating business. The issue is these people who are so damaged by their own vehement hatred for gay people that they think gays people are themselves defective.
The fact that they think there is something to ‘fix’ means they think there is something broken, something sinful, something evil that must be eradicated, lest they fail in their religious right to exorcise, or, failing that, ostracize those wretched souls from the circle of the ‘saved’… those approaching heaven’s gates.
He is correct in thinking that the amount of pain those like-minded, hating groups (who think as he does) inflict on gay people make it overwhelmingly painful for some to carry on; this, apparently, does not cause him enough concern to try to see the other side of the coin. Instead, he insists that there is something defective about gay people that he needs to throw 10 million dollars at to fix.
“It has really damaged our company and when the attorney general of the state of New Jersey decided that we had to put up a same-sex site and we did it out of counsel that if we didn’t do it we were not going to have any business in New Jersey — we literally had to hire guards to protect our lives because the people were so hurt and angry with us, were Christian people, who feel that it’s a violation to scripture.” Warren said. [Source]
I, for one, am happy to see that his hatred and disdain for gay people has damaged his ability to make more of that most evil of things: money. In his interview, he admitted, in my opinion, that he was forced – against his religious principles of hating/needing to fix gay people – to start another dating site oriented to gay partners.
For a man who admits that he loves to gamble, apparently making that money in New Jersey is too delicious to pass up. He obviously did not start that other dating site without the threat of being shut out of the New Jersey market, making this a clear-cut case as to where his loyalties lie – and money seems to come out ahead of compassion. Or the willingness to truly understand human nature and the fact that being born gay is not something that religion can ‘fix’ later in one’s life.
eHarmony has had to answer to multiple legal suits for their foolish point of view, as documented here, and with that heinous belief – of the defectiveness of gay people – I am sure they will have more to contend with in the future. Warren described himself as a follower of Jesus but I think he has not asked himself “What would Jesus do.” I’m sure the answer would surprise and disgust him.
His “love them enough to fix them” routine is old…and not working for me.
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