The cowardly and anonymous man behind Biblical Gender Roles, a Christian blog that highlights a number of issues men may face in their “Biblical” marriages, is truly a horrid person.
Recently, we highlighted a guide produced by the site that tells good, Christian men how they can properly punish their wives if they will not provide him with sex on demand. But did you know that there are even easier methods of getting some Biblical nookie than going out of your way to make your wife’s life miserable until she finally gives in (or divorces you)?
The author is careful to mention that he would never advocate for a husband to force himself physically on his resisting wife, but if he feels the need to take his divine rod to the holy hole, he should totally “take it,” no matter how little she is interested in touching such a repulsive creature.
The unnamed author notes that in a past post, “we established the fact that as a Christian husband you do not have to earn sex with your wife,” a stance for which he took a “beating,”he says. “But I stand by what I wrote, I feel that today we make far too many excuses for the sin of sexual denial in marriage, and as men of God we must address this issue without pulling punches.”
The author (whom we shall call “Skippy” from this point on) notes — ad nauseum — throughout his posts that a wife has no right to deny sex to her husband (while feebly adding that a husband can not deny sex to his wife in an attempt to justify the former viewpoint).
According to Skippy, a “Christian” wife has no right to tell her husband “no,” but she can ask for a delay if there are “legitimate physical or mental issues” that justify such a delay — if she asks “humbly and respectfully” and “always with the attitude in mind that her body does belong to her husband.”
It is not the wife’s decision if her reason for asking her husband to have sex with her at a later date is “legitimate,” however. That judgment is left entirely up to the husband.
“You are not being selfish when you act on your God given sexual urges and initiate sex with your wife,” Skippy writes. “Even if your wife is not in the mood, but she yields to your advance anyway, you ought to take it.”
Sure, the author is not advocating for forcible rape (Once again, there is a guide that explains how to properly punish and humiliate a “Christian” wife into submission), but what is rape anyway? Skippy writes:
But I will say this, despite American laws to the contrary, Biblically speaking, there is no such thing as “marital rape”. In the Scriptures, the only way rape occurs is if a man forces himself on a woman who is not his property (not his wife, or concubine). A man’s wives, his concubines (slave wives taken as captives of war or bought) could be made to have sex with him, no questions asked.
If a woman’s lack of desire for her husband is so lacking that she “dries up,” so to speak, Skippy suggests an uncomfortable bout of foreplay with someone who has no interest in what is being done to her body. If that doesn’t work, there is always lube — after all, “There are ways to make sure a woman is sufficiently lubricated, even if she is not in the mood for sex.”
But, as Skippy notes in a later post, a husband has no responsibility at all to “put her in the mood” by doing various things she expects or likes. If a wife refuses sex too often, then “You need to call out your wife’s sin for exactly what it is – sexual immorality.”
If a wife denies sex to her husband, according to Skippy, he should first berate her privately. If this does not work, he should ask his pastor and his wife for help in shaming her into submission.
“If she will not listen even to them then she has chosen to act like an unbeliever,” the author writes, “and now she will be treated as such.”
If even the act of having your pastor yell at her and taking her to “Christian” counseling do not work, never fear, men:
“But I want you to understand something, it is not your responsibility to keep your wife in the marriage by any means necessary, and certainly not by giving in to her willful, rebellious and sinful behavior.”
In fact, this is the point that you begin punishing her: Refuse to take her out to eat or to do anything with her. Stop fixing things around the house unless it’s a needed major repair. Don’t cook for her or help around the house or any other “things that really she should be doing for herself, but you have simply been trying to be nice and doing for her.”
If all else fails, you can torture your wife into submission by taking away any access to money she has — a feat the author concedes may be difficult if she is a heathen who has her own job.
If none of these charming steps pan out, “You have the option to divorce her for her sexual immorality.”
This sort of attitude is, unfortunately, pervasive in some segments of Christianity. Pastor Stephen Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church in Tempe, Arizona says that women are so low in importance that they shouldn’t so much as say “Amen” in church because it gives the impression that they have the right to declare something to be true.
In many Christian households, women exist as property — just like God intended — and you can’t rape property. Praise Jesus!
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